How does one pick a doula? How do you decide which doula is right for you? Interviewing doulas and deciding who will be invited to join you in this intimate time might seem overwhelming. It’s ok to be nervous or unsure as what steps to take.
I might suggest starting with trying to understand what type of support you are looking for. Are you looking for physical support? Someone to reassure you when you are uncertain? Are you looking for emotional support? Are you looking for someone who might help you understand your options?
It’s good to remember that the right doula for you might not be someone who has attended the most births. You might find that you have good chemistry and “click” well with a doula who is just starting out.
Here are some thoughtful things to consider when you interview a doula:
How much time does she spend talking during your conversation? How much time does she spend listening? A good doula is someone who listens!
Does your doula include your partner in discussions?
Do you feel comfortable talking about personal topics? Can you speak your mind?
Do you feel this is someone who you would enjoy spending time with?
What kind of training and experience do they have? Some doulas have basic training with a weekend workshop, while others have completed months of extensive study. Some doulas were trained as an apprentice and have no official training. Some people learn on the job. Which training is important to you? Check out the website of your doula’s training organization to learn more about their training and qualifications.
Questions to ask a Doula:
Tell me about one of your favorite births.
Tell me about one of your most challenging births.